Today is my 20th wedding anniversary. It boggles the mind. It is a bittersweet occasion, of course. The wife and I are going to have a nice dinner at a Belgian restaurant to celebrate.
I picture our marriage as being like the exhausted triathlete that just barely manages to stumble across the finish line (symbolizing our 20th anniversary) before collapsing in a heap.
I have been continuing to wear my wedding ring, waiting until today, just to make it 20 years. We'll see if I feel like taking it off after tonight.
A year ago, I wrote a little three-minute quartet piece and set it to a slide show of our time together. It made us both cry. Just a year ago.
Perhaps I can find a way to post it here.
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20 comments:
Oh, Lovebug. I'm so sorry. Let me know about the ring. I'm truly interested in your feelings. Strange, my marriage is stable, but I have only worn my ring a few times. I thought I was allergic or something, turns out I am just terrified of feeling overwhelmed.
Bug,
Happy Anniversary. It is quite an accomplishment to have been able to have a relationship with one another for 20 years. Even if you don't want to be married anymore, it is truly inspiring how you continue to love one another.
I hope you have a lovely evening. Let tomorrow take care of itself, my friend.
xx
pinks
Celebrate the good times that were had. It is still quite an achievement.
Sounds like a friendship is likely to come out of this.
Bug - I guess Happy Anniversary doesn't really seem appropriate. As you know, today is also my anniversary. Funny how our lives seem to be paralleling each other, in far TOO many ways. It is safe to say we will not be going out to dinner at a Belgian restauant. I keep hoping he'll get over stuff. It's so difficult. When I dropped the kids off on Saturday he had something sitting on the table by the front door, the same thing he had done when he proposed to me. I pretended I didn't see it. I hope you at least have an enjoyable time and when you are ready to take the rings off you'll know it.
I was married on September 2, (I think) 1977, then on September 7, 1987. I'll note my 30 and 20 year dates with a drink (hopefully with a cute new guy)and a smile.
It's YOUR ring and you can wear it forever if you want. Hope you're okay.
Just leaving you understanding, love and {{hugs}}
Lynn: Thank you, I'll definitely let you know.
Pinks: Thank you. The anniversary dinner has been postponed, as Mrs. Wit is sick. So, maybe this weekend.
CB: Yes, we are on track for a great friendship, so long as we can get through the divorce without getting contentious.
Les: Yeah, the happy anniversary thing is sort of ironic. But, I am also very excited and anticipating my freedom. The dinner is postponed, but I'm sure we'll have fun when we finally go.
So, what was in the box? Any idea?
Jali: Wow, ten years apart almost to the day!
I checked my calendar, and I am free for drinks on both the second AND the seventh! ;-)
And yes, I am fine. Thanks for asking. :-)
Thanks, Val. I know you know what it's like. (What, no bites?)
I made it just shy of 20 years..... sigh..... it would of been 26 years this past Feb.... but thats life or divorce I suppose......
(((((((((((bugs))))))))))) stuff yaself silly tonight and remember the good bits with love and smiles :)
x
Wow, Marmy, that's the biggest hug I've every received! And I've been married for twenty years!
*rim shot*
Thanks, I will (when we fanialy have that dinner)!
Not sure why, but I suddenly decided to have the chicken.
(twenty years ago today...)
I wasn't married, but I do remember what I did.
I so agree with Jali. You wear your ring as long as you want!!
Tildy: Thanks, but it's coming off soon. I want it off, but it's a psychological boundary or milestone, you know?
Wow. Bug I'm sorry.
I am glad you're managing to be friends during this time. That says a lot about both of you.
(((bug)))
Thank you, Joni, but no need to be sorry. It's just a whistful look back at the shore as the boat begins to push off. The departure is sad, but the impending voyage is exciting.
May God bless and watch over you both. I do not care which god, Bug. This is a renewal time. Faith will be your friend. So will I. It looks like there are several of us here lining up to give you a push and a shove if you need it.
M
I think you are right, Molly. I just have to keep treating everyone well and they'll take care of me! :-)
LOL@you think you will have chicken ....... ok that so made me smile lol
x
Mmmm...Chicken...
Hey can can Janet come over to my house for a while?
;-)
I would love to hear your music.
And your analogy of your marriage makes my heart ache. Just remember that after such a long race there may be some soreness, but ultimately there is relief and strength to go on once again ;o)
:(
*bug hug*
20 years is 20 years - and that's amazing.
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